How Do I Find a Partner for Sexual Transmutation?

Those who are single can become discouraged when studying the teachings about sexual transmutation. When we do not have a partner, we can feel as if our siutation is hopeless, and our loneliness and ambition can create a lot of pain.

While is a marriage is a necessary part of the path, being single is, too. While single, you will learn things that you cannot otherwise learn.

We advise you to curb your spiritual ambition, and study your loneliness for what it truly is. An excellent antidote for loneliness is profound self-remembering: when we are in constant observation of the presence of your Being and Divine Mother, loneliness vanishes, and is replaced by warmth and serenity. Furthermore, we become capable of doing our duty: fulfilling the will of our Innermost. Our Innermost knows what we need, and knows that to walk the path, we will need a partner. The problem is, we do not listen to the Innermost; we listen to our desires. That is why we make mistakes and suffer.

The Will of the Being

"Consider the ravens: for they neither sow nor reap; which neither have storehouse nor barn; and God feedeth them: how much more are ye better than the fowls?

"And which of you with taking thought [worrying] can add to his stature one cubit?

"If ye then be not able to do that thing which is least, why take ye thought for the rest?

"Consider the lilies how they grow: they toil not, they spin not; and yet I say unto you, that Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.

"If then God so clothe the grass, which is to day in the field, and to morrow is cast into the oven; how much more [will he clothe] you, O ye of little faith?

"And seek not ye what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink, neither be ye of doubtful mind.

"For all these things do the nations of the world seek after: and your Father knoweth that ye have need of these things [including knowing whether you need to be single or to be married, and when].

"But rather seek ye the kingdom of God [within you]; and all these [external] things shall be added unto you.

"Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom.

"Sell that ye have, and give alms; provide yourselves bags which wax not old, a treasure in the heavens that faileth not, where no thief approacheth, neither moth corrupteth.

"For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

"Let your loins be girded about [in chastity], and [your] lights [consciousness] burning [awake];

"And ye yourselves like unto men that wait [awakened] for their lord, when he will return from the wedding; that when he cometh and knocketh, they may open unto him immediately.

"Blessed [are] those servants, whom the lord when he cometh shall find watching [awakened]: verily I say unto you, that he shall gird himself, and make them to sit down to meat, and will come forth and serve them [what they have earned].

"And if he shall come in the second watch, or come in the third watch, and find [them] so, blessed are those servants.

"And this know, that if the goodman of the house had known what hour the thief [ego] would come, he would have watched, and not have suffered his house to be broken through.

"Be ye therefore ready also: for the Son of man cometh at an hour when ye think not." —Aberamentho (Jesus)

Unmistakable Evidence

When you meet a potential partner, there is one way to know for certain who your spouse is: it is love. The basis of spiritual work is love. The love for your spouse is the defining factor of your marriage. This is the most important choice you will ever make: be certain that your love is genuine and real.

Before you enter into a relationship, we advise you to meditate very profoundly on this chapter: Love.

This articlewil also help you: Three Kinds of Love, Self-love, Intolerance, Criticism, Transvaluation.

What About Dating Apps and Websites?

Ask yourself who you can trust more: a corporation who wants to make money from your loneliness, or your innermost divinity who wants you to be free of suffering? 

"There are also magazines [now matchmaking apps and websites] for failures. In the magazines for the failures, women announce themselves. They solicit for a husband who is short, fat, skinny, with money, etc. Many young ladies are following that ultramodern example. This is mental prostitution. The outcome of this mental prostitution is critical. The interchange of writing begins. They start falling in love with someone they do not know and they start projecting plans. Yet, in the end, on the day when the couple meets, failure is the inevitable outcome. Ladies who have never been prostitutes—honorable and distinguished young ladies—allow themselves to be cheated by modernism and fall into the crime of mental prostitution. If a clairvoyant were to study in the mental plane the announcements of love of all of those magazines [matchmaking websites], one will see houses of prostitution. Each announcement of love corresponds in the mental world to a horrible mental bedroom of a whorehouse. Every clairvoyant is astonished when seeing those whorehouses of the mental plane. Within each bedroom of those horrible dens a prostitute is found lying there. Men enter and leave from those bedrooms. Each announcement of the magazine corresponds to one of those bedrooms. The woman who placed the announcement is lying down in her bedroom. This is what the prostitution of the mental plane is. True love has nothing to do with those whorehouses of the mental plane. Thousands of young and distinguished ladies are perverting themselves with those types of magazines [and websites]. True love begins always with a flash of delectable affinity. It is substantiated with the force of tenderness, and it is synthesized in infinite, supreme adoration." —Samael Aun Weor, Fundamental Notions of Endocrinology and Criminology

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